I was just visiting your page and I saw this poll & remembered answering this back when it was in my news feed, which now that I look was back in August... Made me chuckle because things have changed so dramatically for me in this regard since the time I answered, and I'm guessing I'm not at all alone in that feeling.
I'd be curious to see if you repeated this exact poll, and looked at the results after 7-8 months -- if the statistics would be the same.
I'm young but my boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year straight. Before that we we broke up once or twice but we were even younger and the break ups were for mostly from lack of previous dating experience and being so young and just confused about what a relationship was suppose to be.
Anyways, our first relationship was pretty sudden but it was weird - we hadn't hung out a whole lot before but i invited him over with my other friend and I donno something clicked and we both could tell we could easily grow to really like each other. We started dating suddenly (strange for me considering i'd only ever had a "crush" on two other guys and i always liked someone for a long time before even considering dating) and yeah, we both grew to really like each other although I' wasnt very affectionate person, and was really shy so it was a slow process really becoming completely comfortable with each other. Fast forward and here we are, still dating and joking with each other like the best friends we are but also very much in love. We're both really unsure about a lot of things for our futures but the two of us together just...works. Sure we have our differences and sometimes bicker but overall we've never had a true fight that was a big problem. And those times we've gotten upset at each other, we've worked it out. Overall I never expected to find love while being so young, but it just kinda of happened I guess and I'm grateful for it everyday
Aw, well I enjoyed your ramble. Enjoy being young. Young love is the best. I'd give anything to be in my (late) teens again. Well, I probably wouldn't want to go back to my past, but I do wish I would've done things differently.
Being unsure about a lot of things is completely okay, and healthy.. you're young, why waste time worrying about the future. You have this time in your life so you don't have to worry about that And a relationship wouldn't be healthy if you never have an argument and you didn't have differences, but you know that. Although try to be observant of (and be very careful if) your arguments tend to signal a conflict of morals and/or values. That is one piece of advice I can give you. Staying in a relationship where those issues never cease to stop coming up or to be resolved is a one way ticket to pain, hurt, and heart break.
I have a girlfriend and we love each other. Thing is... we're only connected through the internet. She lives in another state (though in the same country as me) so we haven't even met each other. I love her a lot but I'm unsure if it's even possible to marry her. I'm so confused. >.< What to do?
I was best friends with a guy for nearly 6 years. We met when we were both young and we both loved each other. We still do love each other, just not in that way. For years we were both too awkward and shy to admit that we liked each other. We were so similar and in sync, and then one day we weren't. I grew more outspoken and self-confident, and now I like standing up for what I think is right. He became even more shy and sort of self consumed. And because of this new found confidence I confessed how I felt for him, and he told me he felt it back. But when I wanted to go on dates with him, he kept changing his mind and couldn't decide whether or not he should do it. He wan't to preserve our friendship but then he also wanted to move forward. We tried dating and it didn't work out. And then we got in a few fights. He got way too friendly with my sister for comfort. I went through some emotional turmoil. So we're still friends, and I do love him, as a friend. But he also makes me so angry a lot of the time.
Long story short, I have no idea why I liked such a stuck up, selfish guy, even though he really is a good person, but now I see we're completely incompatible. But I do still believe in love and that one day I'll fined it.
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Platonic and good familial bond based love is for everyone, the romantic form of love is finicky, tricky, and those who know what they want when it comes to that aspect of love and finding somebody... It makes it even harder and for some of us it may not exist in this life, but in another life should there be one for each of us...
It's a pretty fickle thing... and (more often than not) hard to find sometimes. It just comes whenever it pleases.
I've been alone for quite a while, isolated by family drama and then need to work almost ceaselessly just to keep my head above water. It has left very little room for finding love in my life. My only hope is that it somehow stumbles across me as I'm flailing along, and then latches on and doesn't let go.
Unfortunately, women around me are either too practical or not practical enough. They judge too quickly. I know I may not be all that dependable - I forget about things and life absolutely loves to blindside me. But I'm the sort of person that, even if he is running late and a bit short on cash because the bank decided to post a bill three days before it posts his paycheck... I'd be there for her, no matter what it took.
The best way is to just go for it. Believe me, every time a guy hints that he likes me, I'm completely oblivious until it's too late. There is nothing more flattering and wonderful than when the guy has the courage to be honest.
I feel really lucky that I'm not bogged down by the sex part of love. I'm asexual, so my romantic relationships focus solely on romance. I think that that's the only way I would be happy; I wouldn't want to have to deal with all the extra complications of sexuality.
I am only a few months from 18 year old... Call me crazy but I fell in love with my girlfriend when I was 16. We are still together. I am lesbian and proud of it. We have not once had a fight. Are relationship is based off of our support for each other in good times and in hard times. <3
Love is a battlefield, corny as it may sound, Ive been on every side of the field, been dug deep in all the trenches, and honestly Ive gained nothing from it but a mess of scars and bullet wounds where my heart used to be. Even loving with all my heart i found it difficult to receive any back, probably because the people who intended to never did, and the ones that didn't tricked me into believing that they did. Ive been everywhere from the friend-zone right back down to the one doing the friend-zoning, and honestly its only briefly been anything but a bitter experience. I even poured everything i had in me into one relationship, only to be told they needed something new because we had far too much history. when really our history was the thing i loved most about our relationship other then the company, because its history that makes a good story, and history that builds nations, its the history that builds a strong foundation for the future. In the end i always hear the same old tale. You deserve better. The real hard truth is, if i always deserve better.....then in the end am i not just all alone? so if you really want to know, id have to say, love isn't worth the toll it takes on the heart, or the scars it leaves on the skin.
I have been in love before--I believe in love, in a way. But I was married for a long time. And I have felt love. So I believe in love. But I believe in it in the way that if the person or persons in love truly believe they're in love, then they are and no one should say otherwise. But, at the same time, the rational and logical side of me would want to explain how the feeling we describe as "love" is essentially a chemical imbalance, and while on the one hand... I can say "Well, science can explain what it is, so it's obviously real" but then again, because of how the feeling tends to wear off over time (and this is not meant offensively to anyone, but scientifically, it is a fact. That's why we have things like "puppy love", "the honeymoon phase" and "the 7 year itch"). It dies down, which means the best idea of whatever "True love" is... is essentially just a couple determined to be together, and willing to openly communicate, and stick it out through everything, in spite of everything. It's a pretty crazy concept, if you think about it. But a powerful one, nonetheless. So, do I believe in love?... maybe not so much, in the typical belief kind of way. But I certainly do believe in the commitment, and willpower, and dedication and faithfulness behind it. And if you find your one and only, then more power to you. It's a beautiful thing.
I love my friends and family, but i've never romantically liked anyone~ I think love in generally though has many different shapes and sizes and is different for everyone. For example, there are some 'intimate' things that a -lot- of people consider as romantic, but for me their just another way of showing friendship. (Like holding hands, or kissing)